Saturday, March 14, 2020
Monday, March 9, 2020
20 Ways To Curb The Confidence Gap Thats Crippling Womens Careers Did you ever have that colleague who lauded himself as the companys greatest asplatzset all while delivering sub-par results forcing the whole team to work much harder?I know I did. For the four years that I worked in this office, I kept expecting him to get laid off. Instead, he was consistently promoted and is still there a decade later as an executive. It took me years to realize why. In the workplace, confidence matters as much as, if not mora than, competence. In an article for the Atlantic magazine, the authors of The Confidence Code, Katty Kay and Claire Shipman wrote, Confidence is a belief in ones ability to succeed, a belief that stimulates action. In turn, taking action bolsters ones belief in ones ability to succeed. So confidence accumulatesthrough hard work, through success, and even through failure. We know that confidence is inextricably linked to high wertmiger zuwachs. Self-confident people are more successful in all areas of life and successful people have high self-confidence. The main impediment for people with low self-confidence is the reluctance to accept challenges beyond their comfort zone. Professional growth requires breaking through your limits to get to the next level.Equally important for career success is recognizing that the way you view yourself affects others. A Journal of Personality and Social Psychology study showed that those who appeared more confident achieved a higher social status than their peers. Within a work environment, those higher-status individuals tended to be more admired, listened to, and influential over group decisions. Most telling, incompetent people are often promoted over their more competent peers.Unsurprisingly, given the disparate values that boys and girls are taught from childhood, men are inclined to overvalue their strengths, while women are inclined undervalue theirs. Many women experience Imposter Syndrome, where they fear bein g exposed as an inadequate fraud. Discussing ansicht feelings with others, particularly mentors, is an effective way to recognize how widespread these anxieties are while also getting constructive feedback to debunk these ideas.In a definite show of progress, more attention has been paid in recent years to the divisions between males and females in the area of confidence in the workplace. Last year, a comprehensive study by the accounting firm KPMG on women and leadership showed some startling statistics demonstrating the need for continued change. While 66% of the 3,000 women analyzed expressed a desire to become a senior leader, only 40% actually envisioned themselves doing so. Two-thirds of women said they were cautious about sharing their opinion at work or taking steps to become leaders. The survey also found that men initiate salary negotiations four times as much as women do, and women typically ask for 30% less money than men when they do negotiate.There are always going to be intimidating people, overwhelming projects, and opportunities that you fear will cause failure rather than success. Letting your insecurity prevail can be a major hindrance in achieving career goals. Here are 20 things you can do to get beyond it and boost your professional confidence1.Self-affirmations Create a system of mantras, symbols, and other reminders for positive thinking. Researchers have found it effective if you speak to yourself in the third person to treat yourself like someone else.2.Ask questions Get the information you need to do the project right Show your aktion and your willingness to learn and work collaboratively with others.3.Share your thoughtsDo not be afraid to speak up and share your valuable opinion to enlighten and be enlightened by others. 4.Ask for feedback You need to know the good and the bad in order to grow so do not wait for a performance review or a warning. Asking shows how much you care about your work.5.Challenge yourselfGo beyond your comf ort zone and ask to be staffed on a totally new assignment with leadership potential, or force yourself to learn a new skill6.Let go of perfect That just is not going to happen, for you or anyone else. You will allow yourself to take more risks once you set more reasonable expectations.7.When you can, far exceed expectations Ring in new partnerships, get reports done early, or implement a more efficient system. Make others feel confident in you 8.Accountability PartnerPartner with others for peer coaching to create a positive change. Choose someone who works closely enough to see you in action and give real feedback.9.Celebrate your successesFeel good about your accomplishments so that they can keep coming. Internalize and promote your achievements for others to notice.10.Word choice Remove Sorry, I Think,Maybe,But, or I cant. Instead try stronger language, like How Could I? And, We will. You undermine yourself by not valuing your opinion.11.Fake It Till You Make ItAct confident and you will start feeling confident. Walk with purpose, make eye contact, and smile. Visualize yourself in the role you want and feel it.12.Look the partHave respect for your coworkers and your workplace. Be serious about how you look, act, and respect how others perceive you.13.Build relationships with people at work Find out who people are beyond the office walls. Make those connections and strengthen the camaraderie at work.14.Own MistakesAcknowledge and learn from them rather than make excuses about them. Use errors as motivation to prove your own growth.15.See Yourself As A BusinessEstablish career goals and action plans to achieve them. Elect your own personal board of directors (mentors, friends, former colleagues) to hold you accountable.16.Take StockEvery quarter force yourself to examine your current professional development. Ask for feedback to determine where you are lacking and need to expand skillset.17.Track AccomplishmentsMake a weekly list of notable achievements. Use your accomplishment list to excel in your performance review and demonstrate your worth.18.Build Your BrandCreate a narrative of your value and make sure all of your marketing materials (social media, elevator pitch, resume, cover letter) speak to it consistently.19.Manage Your Reputation Control impressions of you by ensuring that what others can see is aligned with your brand. Set yourself apart through articles, speaking engagements, and other opportunities to establish your expertise.20.Network Find the people who are thought leaders in your profession. Connect and ask for other contacts. Meet as many people as possible, follow up, and pay it forward.--Elana Konstant is a career coach and consultant focusing on professional women in career transition. A former lawyer, she founded Konstant Change Coaching to empower women to create the career they want. Change is good. Elana will help you find out why. Her career advice has been featured onGlamour.com, Babble, Motherly, and othe r outlets. You can learn more by visiting her website,konstantchangecoaching.com.Fairygodboss is committed to improving the workplace and lives of women. Join us by reviewing your employer
Sunday, January 5, 2020
Discussing Politics at Work 6 Dos and Donts The presidential debate was last week the vice presidential debate is this Thursday and the presidential election is next month. Most often, anything presidential equals politics, especially when it comes to our nation. On TV, in the magazines, even on street signs in your neighbors yard The discussion of politics is everywhere. Yet, what about in the workplace? Politics can be touchy, especially when it comes to hot topics such as abortion, gun control and health care. Similar to everyday life, discussions enhance relationships and they promote interpersonal communication between employees. But is it too risky to have political conversations with co-workers?I think its inevitable that these fonts of discussions will arise. Politics affect how you live and work sometimes drastically changing your quality of life. Like fruchtwein other topics, politics is sure to come up on the job. Below are six tips for what to do and what not to do when engaging in political discussions in the work environment.DosBe respectfulAgain, politics can be a touchy subject. If certain topics arise, remember to always be respectful of others. Sure, you may be passionate about an issue, but do not try to force your beliefs on others. Listen as they talk and allow them to freely discuss their viewpoints, just as you should discuss yours as they listen. Theres no need to talk over someone or shoot down his or her views this is not a debate, its a friendly discussion.Keep your perspectiveRemember that youre at work, not running for office. Talking about politics should be a discussion to express different views and ideologies. Again, its not a debate and you are not seeking to win an election. Think about where you are as youre talking. Control your volume and watch your tone as politics can invoke strong emotions. You are leise in the place where you work an d will still have to associate with your colleagues once the discussion ends.Stay professionalEveryone has different views on political issues and can voice them in any way they please outside of their jobs. If see you the discussion going in a negative direction, deescalate it. Shouting matches, arguments and political name-calling and jabs are unprofessional. Practice all the common courtesies you would when regularly speaking with a colleague.Donts Dont openly discuss politics at team meetings Although I dont see an issue with managers reminding employees to vote (this is a right we all have), its not a good idea to freely talk about politics in a slanted way during team meetings. You do not want to show your biases to employees and use language that openly endorses one feier over another when addressing your team. All Republicans areAll Democrats doIndependents shouldthis type of language is stereotypical and should be avoided. Your employees dont need you to tell them what to t hink and how to feel about politics.Dont send promotion emails Sending mass emails to promote a political candidate or political event shows biases, especially if one party seems to be favored over another. Its one thing to inform employees about voting, but its something completely different to alert them about a local political event. Do not send emails or any type of mass communication that seems to endorse a candidate or promote attendance to a political event. Communications with political content should not make any employee feel uncomfortable.Dont hold political partiesEveryone has office parties, but a party celebrating a political candidate should be avoided. Even if your office has parties for each type of candidate, this could encourage separation and exclusivity in the work environment. If you desire to celebrate something your preferred candidate or political party accomplished, do it outside of your job.
Tuesday, December 31, 2019
Common cover letter mistakes new job seekers makeCommon cover letter mistakes new job seekers makeLike a resume, a cover letter is a single page that can make or break your chances of landing a job. In an effort to get hired fast, new job seekers might rush through the process of writing and submitting their application materials, and often make some common cover letter mistakes.Here are some of the common cover letter mistakes new job seekers may make - and how to avoid themPutting education firstSure, youre proud of the degree you earned from that fancy schmancy school you graduated from. But employers are far more interested in your work experience rather than where you graduated. So unless its absolutely relevant to the job youre applying for (i.e., the job listing is from your old alma mater), its best to include your education on your resume, not your cover letter.Downplaying qualificationsIf you find yourself writing, Although I dont have much experience stop You never want to tell a profil employer that youre not completely qualified for the job. Instead, youll want to use this document to prove that you are a strong contender for the position. So dont write anything in your cover letter that might cast a negative light on you. Focus instead on the experience you do have, how you can add value to the company, and erase that line (or anything similar to it) from your cover letter.And also, if youre truly not qualified, you may want to reconsider whether its even a good idea to apply.Saying too muchIn an effort to hide the fact that you might not have all the necessary requirements for the position, you might go on and on and on in your cover letter. But rambling does not a good cover letter make, so you still need to stick to keeping it to one page.Write as much as you want in your first draft, and then keep editing yourself until all of your schooling, work experience, and skills are neatly highlighted in well-written paragraphs on a single page. I f you cant decide what info should stay and what should be deleted, ask a friend or family member to help you edit it.Not customizingSure, writing a cover letter for each individual company that you apply to is definitely time-consuming. Its almost the only way, though, to have a solid chance of getting a job interview.Keep in mind that hiring managers read dozens of cover letters each day, and they can tell almost instantly if youve crafted a cover letter specifically for their company, or simply copy and pasted the companys name on a generic cover letter. Take the time to write a meaningful cover letter for each company that you apply for, ensuring that you spell the company name and the contacts name correctly. Tie in your skills with what the job listing requires and, above all, make it meaningful.Being bashfulWhether youre a recent college grad or an older worker trying to on-ramp back into the workforce after taking some years off, you might be afraid that your inexperience/la ck of skills/employment gap/etc. will be very evident to an employer. Thats why your cover letter is skimpy, lacking personality, or void of examples of work that tie into the job youre applying for.Thing is, being shy isnt going to get you hired. Its important to be confident when applying for any job. Recruiters and hiring managers alike want to feel that youre passionate about the position youre applying for, and even more so to work for their company. So let your excitement shine through when youre writing your cover letter. After all, your enthusiasm can be contagious and might set you apart from other job candidatesExcluding relevant experienceAs a new job seeker, you might think that you dont really have any relevant experience to report. Well, think again. Job experience doesnt always have to come from previous positions. It can come from volunteer efforts, transferable skills youve garnered working in other industries earlier in your career, your education, and so on. Dont be so quick to dismiss the marketing you did for your husbands startup or the fundraising you did at your childs school. All of that counts as experience, and if the position requires it, its your responsibility to report itNot promising to follow upYou might have written a killer cover letter, but if you dont know how to sign off, you could risk losing out on a job interview. In your concluding paragraph, reiterate how much you would like the position and offer real reasons why (like a great company culture or how the job is the next logical step in your career). Then, write how youll follow up to see if the hiring manager has any questions. That way, you show your interest and end your cover letter on a professional and positive note.This article first appeared on FlexJobs.
Thursday, December 26, 2019
Tech workers cant afford to have children in San FranciscoTech workers cant afford to have children in San FranciscoEarlier this summer we found thatif you live in the Bay Area and have a salary of $117,400 you qualify as low income in some counties. So if you cant afford a house in San Francisco and the surrounding areas there is a good chance you cant afford to have children either.According to a new survey of over 8,200 people byBlind, a workplace social networkwhich is mostly used by tech workers in Silicon Valley, 58% said they were putting off having children because it would be too expensive. With the average cost of raising a single child until age 17 being $233,610 as of 2015, this makes sense. Birth rates have been decreasing significantly in California especially in areas where home rates are appreciating, according to Zillow.In San Jose, it dropped 20% from 2010 to 2016 and in Oakland, it fell by 24%.The survey, which took data fromSeptember 2, 2018 September 7, 2018, br oke down which respondents that felt this way about childcare costs worked at which tech companies. Apple had the most employees delaying families at 69.11% followed by Cisco and eBay.
Saturday, December 21, 2019
listing an unfinished novel as a work accomplishment on your resume listing an unfinished novel as a work accomplishment on your resume A reader writesIm a copywriter. Its my first time hiring for a copywriter position.I dont want to be petty or unfair to applicants, but I dont want to hear about peoples unfinished novels on their resumes or cover letters. In my opinion, it comes off as either immature, self absorbed, or really uninformed about the work (copywriting is really not at all like writing a novel, other than that they both use words). But is it wrong to reject applicants purely because they cite their unfinished novel as evidence of their writing skills?If you complete the novel, even if its not published, I feel like that could rise to the level of a business accomplishment because it demonstrates dedication. But if youre working on a novel for free (i.e. a publisher has not given you an advance), then thats not really evidence that you can write especially well or even t hat you write regularly. Theres no deadline or editor that youre beholden to.I could see bringing it up in an einstellungsgesprch when discussing culture fit or if you were looking for an editing position at a publishing house.Am I missing something? I would love you know your take on this.Full disclosure I have about 150,000 words of my own unfinished novel but I dont put it on my resume.Yeah, its not something that should go on a resume, for exactly the reasons you say. Its not evidence that you can write well, since theres no accountability to others involved. And thats not just because its unfinished you could have a finished novel, but if its unsold, it indicates that you have stamina, but not much about the writing itself.But I wouldnt reject an otherwise excellent candidate for including it on their resume. It would raise my eyebrows, yes, and I wouldnt be super impressed with their judgment in this regard but if they had really strong experience and skills, those would outw eigh it. On the other hand, if they kept citing it in the interview, that would be a fairly strong strike against them, because theyd be showing they didnt really get that its not significant to the work of the job.However, if the person didnt have other evidence of strong writing and editing skills, and offered up only the existence of a partially written novel as qualifications for the job, then yeah, thats a rejection - because the person isnt really demonstrating any qualifications in that case (assuming you want to hire people with experience and a proven track record).
Tuesday, December 17, 2019
An Introduction To Career ChangeAn Introduction To Career ChangeThe good news is that I survived and realized my dream. Here are some basic survival tips for those contemplating a career change1. Choose a career that you are passionate about. There were many days, during my journey, when the passion was all that kept me going. Dont choose a career based only on the expectation that youll make lots of money. If your career doesnt fit with your values, interests, skills and personality, you wont be happy with it in the long run. You may wind up with a pile of money, but with a job that you hate.2. Do your homework. Being passionate about your career isnt enough you must plan and prepare. Before making your decision, talk to people in that field. Ask how they got started, what it takes to be successful, which are the best training programs (or educational institutions), what income to expect and their estimate of how long it will take you. Research the industry. Will there be a job for you when youre ready? 3. How will it impact your personal relationships? Discuss with your immediate family the life changes that will be necessary. Include them in the decision. You will need their support and encouragement, especially if changing fields requires a lengthy period of education or training. Remember that educational expenses equal less disposable income and time devoted to study means less time with family and friends. 4. Networking. Start your professional networking right away to meet (and learn from) people in your new field. Those contacts will be valuable for job leads when you need them.5. You simply must take care of yourself. You know the drill healthy diet, exercise, getting enough sleep, R&R time, etc. Life changes are stressful, and stress can create physical illness and depression. I (foolishly) thought that I would be able to work both my night job and a day job, too, during the summer. Wrong Working two jobs was even mora drainin g than my school/night job schedule. I needed a break during the summer months even more than I needed the extra income. 6. Expect to be surprised. No matter how carefully you plan, something unexpected will happen. Some of my surprises wereI had forgotten how to study It had been so long since I had to read massive amounts of information and retain it, that I had lost the ability to do that easily. I had to relearn study skills. I enjoyed being a full-time college student even more than I thought I would.My therapy practice gradually segued into individual and management coaching. My education and experience as a therapist made that an easy transition. And I found that coaching was a perfect fit for me.It did take me ten years to complete two degrees, 2500 internship hours and studying for licensing exams. Even if your change doesnt take as long, you will still need passion, planning, persistence and patience to achieve your goal.